Sometimes we are rejected by someone we considered a friend and for the life of us we can't understand why. Sometimes we are forced away from or out of something that absolutely makes no sense to us simply because it seemed to truly be working well. Sometimes we even love and want to be with someone that either doesn't reciprocate that love and desire back or just wants us around when it's good for them. Rejection is never an easy thing to deal with…especially when you feel like you have given so much of yourself to that person or situation you're being rejected by.
It's sometimes hard to let go so we try to continue to force ourselves into the relationship or situation. We keep trying to figure different ways to help, love or communicate with that person. Too often, we think we are the problem and become down on ourselves or depressed. We might feel like we are being helpful and doing what God would have us to or simple what we think is right, when the truth is either the relationship has run its course or they may just no longer be receptive to us anymore. It's hard to see this sometimes, but important for us to stay in prayer because this rejection can often times cause bitterness of heart. Bitterness is a very hard thing to come back from.
There are times, if we're being really honest with ourselves, we are the problem and it's time to just walk away or let go. We're trying to be a part of something that is no longer for us or a relationship that we shouldn't be in; causing the other person(s) misery as well as ourselves.
Someone once said to me "Rejection is sometimes God's protection". Since I've heard that it has really sat with me and even helped me through some tough situation. Since hearing it I have added a word, to say.."Worldly rejection is sometimes God's protection". I've added the word "worldly" because God Himself will never reject us if we are truly seeking Him. However, He will sometimes allow certain things to happen, that may feel like rejection from others or the world.
There are many reasons that He will allow this to happen; maybe the relationship is bad for us or one sided. Maybe the course the person is taking or the situation is taking will be a spiritual hindrance to us. Sometimes the things/people we feel rejected from are distractions from the path that God has from us and as a result He will allow a road block to come between you and that person/situation. When this happens we have two choices…we can keep fighting to stay or we can stop, refocus, pray and ask God to direct our paths to where He wants us to go.
1 Peter 3:9 (NLT) 9 Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will bless you for it.
I do realize that this is not always easy…I have this thing were it kills me not to be liked by everyone. I feel like I have to be doing something wrong and I need to fix it. If I feel like I'm doing my best to help, I have a hard time letting go and want to do my best to be of some type of assistance. When the truth of the matter is, it's time to move on….possible for my benefit or even the other persons. This doesn't mean that I have to completely give up, but often times the best thing I can do is to be silent and pray. Bottom line, in my opinion, is that if it's going to be so…then God will make it so if I am seeking His will above my own. Truth of the matter is I don't always know what's best! So, it's time to let go in the physical but, keep it/them lifted up in the spiritual. God will surely take care of the rest.
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